CONFLICT is Not Bad

Prov 17:10

A single rebuke does more for a person of understanding than a hundred lashes on the back of a fool.

*When you rebuke someone, you make that person better.

*Conflict resolution should always be motivated by LOVE

2 Timothy 4:2

Preach the word of God. Be persistent, whether the time is favorable or not. Patiently correct, rebuke, and encourage your people with good teaching.

KEYS TO DEALING WITH CONFLICT

1. Deal with it
2. Sit Down and write out what is bothering you. Pause.
3. Before confronting, determine your goals :- you primary, secondary and any added bonuses
4. Take control of your emotions
5. Get the facts right first. Do your homework before confronting.
6. Hint dropping is evil - are you plotting something up your sleeve?
7. Treat others as you would want to be treated

* Try to see the other side
* stay away from Attacking words/phrases like :
-------- "you always!"-------- when its not true....
--------"you never!"----------
---------"I hate that you" -------- "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger." - Psa 15:1
8. Use phrases that are non- threatening like ----" It seems as though.....
9. Don't exaggerate things
- Realize that the action was bad and not that person.

Trying my own Fried Fish Soup!

Inspired by only the ingredients i have to play with :-
Fish, Garlic and one egg.... i went to seek a recipe that could help me make a dish.

I found Stir-fried Fish Cubes and as i try to find the other ingredients in my brother's house ( yes, i was home alone )- i found tapioca flour, dried shrimp, no scallions - so i used celery and no ginger...decided to use garlic... i figured, i'd not have stir-fry, why not make soup? since the couple are not feeling well... they might like a little soup...

and then... viola...my fried fish! how did i make it?


2 Tablesp of Water
2 Tablesp of Flour (Corn or Tapioca)
1 egg white
2 pieces of Tilapia Fillet ( chop into cubes )
and a pan of vegetable oil, heat on high till u see bubbles...means hot!
then dip the fish cubes in mixture of flour,egg and water and put into the pan to deep fry... fry till golden brown!


Next the soup base...decided to just add whatever i can find since i can't go anywhere to get the ingredients in the website...

Ingredients for soup base:-
2 stems of celery (chopped into slices or cubes -for the crunchy feel)
1 Tablespoon of dried shrimp (soaked in water before adding into soup)
3 cloves of garlic (sliced)
1 Tablespoon of Miso soup base(enough to give you a clear yet tasty soup)
1 egg yolk (leftover from the making of fried fish) and then put the fried fish into the soup when ready to eat!


And then there was Fried Fish Soup! Honey potato! finally made something we always like to eat in Singapore... at least mine looks close to that...
To finish, add to soup some fried red onions.

How to make Papaya Pickles

Papaya Pickles Recipe

Ingredients :

1 Green unripe papaya

1 tablespoon Salt

6 Bird's eye chili (chili padi)/ 2 Big RED CHILLI

250ml Vinegar

250ml Water

250g Sugar



Method :

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Skin the papaya before cutting into halves.
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Remove the seeds.
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Cut the papaya into 1 inch thick slices then cut each piece into thin slices without cutting all the way through. This allows the pieces to be opened up into a fan shape.
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If preferred, cut the papaya into thin slices.
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Put the pieces of papaya in a clean mixing bowl.
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Add the salt, mix and allow to marinate for about an hour until the papaya turn soft.
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Squeeze out excess liquid.
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Put vinegar, water and sugar into a heavy-based saucepan and bring to a low simmering boil for 15 minutes.
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Remove saucepan from the heat and leave aside to cool completely.
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Pack the papaya slices and chili padi in a glass jar and pour in the cooled vinegar syrup.
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Allow to marinate for about 3 hours before serving.
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Store pickle in the refrigerator for an extra crunchy taste.



+ Recipe above is from a website i found, but those are my pictures.I really made em!

# It gives you a spicy, sweet and sour taste. Made it because the papaya was rotting on the outside and not ripe inside.So I'd rather not waste the papaya. Make pickle! You can use unripe yellow papaya too! TRY IT!

+ It also reminds me of my mom as we use to make em for pickle in a Big " Horlick " glass bottle. Anybody remember those days? HORLICK! hehe....++++

Korean drama 18 vs 29

With eng subs,I watched the whole series within 2 days! staying in Zurich, Switzerland. Its such a heartwarming yet annoying love story... sometimes I'd wished they would just be truthful to the one they love, then things won't be so complicated.Be truthful even when it hurts the other party...?

I Love you ,Sarang Hei!

Happy Chinese New YEAR!!! 2009

Chinese New Year @ home with my frens and loved ones is such a blessing...
I love the reunions.... and the chatterings... and the sharing of each moment,
Here are some pictures to share. Apologize for randomly organizing them Not an expert...But Enjoy!

Spot the little sparrow?










Speaking to Tom on webcam!













Lunch at Ah Poh's





Firecrackers still going!