CONFLICT is Not Bad

Prov 17:10

A single rebuke does more for a person of understanding than a hundred lashes on the back of a fool.

*When you rebuke someone, you make that person better.

*Conflict resolution should always be motivated by LOVE

2 Timothy 4:2

Preach the word of God. Be persistent, whether the time is favorable or not. Patiently correct, rebuke, and encourage your people with good teaching.

KEYS TO DEALING WITH CONFLICT

1. Deal with it
2. Sit Down and write out what is bothering you. Pause.
3. Before confronting, determine your goals :- you primary, secondary and any added bonuses
4. Take control of your emotions
5. Get the facts right first. Do your homework before confronting.
6. Hint dropping is evil - are you plotting something up your sleeve?
7. Treat others as you would want to be treated

* Try to see the other side
* stay away from Attacking words/phrases like :
-------- "you always!"-------- when its not true....
--------"you never!"----------
---------"I hate that you" -------- "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger." - Psa 15:1
8. Use phrases that are non- threatening like ----" It seems as though.....
9. Don't exaggerate things
- Realize that the action was bad and not that person.